Richard Schwartz’s book You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For offers a brilliantly simple yet revolutionary approach to relationships and personal healing. Our deepest wounds and relationship struggles stem from unprocessed parts within us, which we often mistakenly identify as our core self. The idea that there is a true Self and accumulated parts…

There is no perfect soul mate, no flawless lover. We are all stumbling around, treading on each other’s toes as we are learning to love. Dr. Sue Johnson – Hold Me Tight Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), asserts that love is not a mystery but a science. It is based…

The book Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff delves into her own anthropological explorations among various civilizations, including the Inuit, Māori, Hunza, Maasai, and Gabonese tribes. In the “pressure cooker” of Western nuclear families, much attention is given to a child’s independence, often demanded in an imperative manner. In contrast, in the aforementioned tribes, children…

Attachment styles are psychological models that describe how people form emotional bonds and interact with others: first in parent-child relationships and then, as a result, in intimate relationships. Views on relationships during the Bowlby era During the 20th century, relationships, especially parent-child relationships, were often viewed through a functional lens. Parents were seen primarily as…

I have long wanted to talk about evidence-based techniques for mental health. I am extremely glad that such methods exist and already have a scientific basis – this is the beginning of something big. We begin to understand on all levels that we are whole beings, not divided into components — body, mind, or soul….

Dedicated to the man who gave me an invaluable experience of accepted emotions and being heard I love to feel that whatever happens to me is just right and happens when it’s right, that I am in a context, and to understand what this context is. When every book that happens to be at hand,…

For a long time I wanted to make a list of books where women sincerely and beautifully write about women’s issues, pains, feministic things, healthy feminine and healthy masculine. I haven’t read all the books on this list, so this is also my to-read list. I also hope that the Ukrainian market will see all…

When I started this blog, I had no idea that this was my introduction to human, and that my path lays in social anthropology. I was simply answering my own questions that arose on the road of motherhood, delving more and more into the nature of things. Now I have found a name for it,…

I had a hard time reading Eric Berne’s book “Games People Play” because it was hard to remember and apply it to my own life without some foundation. Such a basis appeared to be a book that is not yet available on the Ukrainian market – “Staying OK” by Thomas and Amy Harris. Its first…

Thanks to the book The Courage to be Disliked, I discovered Adler – the father of individual psychology. And read his The Science of Living. It resonated with me, especially considering that I have a background in psychoanalysis and integrative psychotherapy. This is heaven and earth. What if we are all not only under the…