Lots of personal struggles, a few therapists, and John Gottman’s science-based book, Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work, is what this text is based on. The title of the article expanded from the concept of marriage to the concept of “relationship”, since most of these principles are applicable not only to marriage, but also to…
There is much more love and connection in the world than I have allowed myself to see. Vivek Murthy – Together (I wasn’t able to find the precise quotation as I read the book in Ukrainian, but I sure will read it in English as well and correct it) I spent half my life in…
However, today I’m in Spain. At the moment, school is here until 2:00 p.m., and now there’s also a long Easter vacation – 12 days. No one pays me for my or babies’ sick leaves and vacations, no one reimburses me for the time spent on the child, nor for the lost personal and professional…
Sometimes, being angry, I think it’s the bottom already – and it knocks from the bottom again, then I want to run from you, from home, at least somewhere. Every day since I became a mother I celebrate the minute of the day when you were born. Viktoriya Chernyakhivska When I yell at my child,…
Last month, I did an experiment dedicated to my 34th birthday: I observed what principles and observations I rely on, what are my main lived-through revelations that I constantly return to in my mind. After filtering the variations and systematizing them, I got the following result. Trust and communication Any relationship is built on trust…
We have so little control over our lives. The only thing we can really control is what we spend our days on. Austin Kleon, Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and Bad When you need to recharge, get out of a dead end, burnout, despair or creative crisis, find out what to…
For me 2020 was a year of great return to the world of Ukrainian-language books. For various reasons, I have ignored our market since the beginning of the war. As it turned out, Ukraine made a real publishing breakthrough. In fact, since 2015 there has been a significant jump in the number of new publishers,…
What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart. Marshall Rosenberg “Nonviolent Communication” Emotional blackmail Once I told one guy that I wanted to break up with him, and he threatened to commit suicide. Surprisingly, my reaction was complete inner peace, and…
1. Janusz Korczak (1878/79-1942, Polish Jew) I’m glad that it’s Korczak who heads the list (it’s chronological), as he is a man of a wide range, who wrote a lot and wisely, for children and about children, who dedicated himself to children, created a home for them (orphanage), and went to a concentration camp with…
When we ask, “How can I get my child to be less shy/concentrate more/be more interested in art/be more active?” and so on, we are not accepting them for who they are. Instead, we can work to show our child we love them just as they are, where they are right now. Really, that is…
