Lots of personal struggles, a few therapists, and John Gottman’s science-based book, Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work, is what this text is based on. The title of the article expanded from the concept of marriage to the concept of “relationship”, since most of these principles are applicable not only to marriage, but also to…
There is much more love and connection in the world than I have allowed myself to see. Vivek Murthy – Together (I wasn’t able to find the precise quotation as I read the book in Ukrainian, but I sure will read it in English as well and correct it) I spent half my life in…
However, today I’m in Spain. At the moment, school is here until 2:00 p.m., and now there’s also a long Easter vacation – 12 days. No one pays me for my or babies’ sick leaves and vacations, no one reimburses me for the time spent on the child, nor for the lost personal and professional…
Sometimes, being angry, I think it’s the bottom already – and it knocks from the bottom again, then I want to run from you, from home, at least somewhere. Every day since I became a mother I celebrate the minute of the day when you were born. Viktoriya Chernyakhivska When I yell at my child,…
Lately, my child and I have been talking a lot about death. Honesty is at the heart of my parenting method, so I keep looking for a way to talk to a child about death, to a four-year-old child, so that it is honest, but simple enough, so that it is simple, but complex enough…
Last month, I did an experiment dedicated to my 34th birthday: I observed what principles and observations I rely on, what are my main lived-through revelations that I constantly return to in my mind. After filtering the variations and systematizing them, I got the following result. Trust and communication Any relationship is built on trust…
What to consider when sending a child to nursery, and how to facilitate adaptation. Own experience and opinion of the family psychologist. The other day, during the act of handover to the nursery, my child sat, dangling his legs, gnawing an apple and was watching with interest as other children roared “iwantmom”. This is our…
How to choose a psychotherapist, my story Restless life.I first decided to see a therapist in 2009, in my early 20s. Who knows at what level this field was in Ukraine at that time (the Ukrainian Union of Psychotherapists was founded in 1994), but I didn’t know anything about it, and I simply went to…
What is burnout? Initially, in 1974, the term “burnout” was defined as “the extinction of motivation or incentive, especially where one’s devotion to a cause or relationship fails to produce the desired results.” After facing personally, I’d simplify it to the word “devastation”. The battery dies and you are no more able to do anything….
I’m always told that I have a complex character. I don’t know whether you noticed, but in Ukraine people usually call so those who have it in general. Ulyana Suprun Aggression is the driving energy and impulse to action. For some, it results in activities for the benefit of the community and… tears, for others…
