I had a hard time reading Eric Berne’s book “Games People Play” because it was hard to remember and apply it to my own life without some foundation. Such a basis appeared to be a book that is not yet available on the Ukrainian market – “Staying OK” by Thomas and Amy Harris. Its first…

Thanks to the book The Courage to be Disliked, I discovered Adler – the father of individual psychology. And read his The Science of Living. It resonated with me, especially considering that I have a background in psychoanalysis and integrative psychotherapy. This is heaven and earth. What if we are all not only under the…

Sometimes, being angry, I think it’s the bottom already – and it knocks from the bottom again, then I want to run from you, from home, at least somewhere. Every day since I became a mother I celebrate the minute of the day when you were born. Viktoriya Chernyakhivska When I yell at my child,…

What to consider when sending a child to nursery, and how to facilitate adaptation. Own experience and opinion of the family psychologist. The other day, during the act of handover to the nursery, my child sat, dangling his legs, gnawing an apple and was watching with interest as other children roared “iwantmom”. This is our…

For me 2020 was a year of great return to the world of Ukrainian-language books. For various reasons, I have ignored our market since the beginning of the war. As it turned out, Ukraine made a real publishing breakthrough. In fact, since 2015 there has been a significant jump in the number of new publishers,…

When we ask, “How can I get my child to be less shy/concentrate more/be more interested in art/be more active?” and so on, we are not accepting them for who they are. Instead, we can work to show our child we love them just as they are, where they are right now. Really, that is…

The trust of our children is of great value to us: our attention, respect, restraint, patience, and endless work on ourselves and our relationships – here is the whole book in one sentence, and at the same time, the painful truth. None of ephemeral absolute love is enough to remain a shelter for a child…

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. The Bible, Ephesians 4:26 The peculiarity of this blog is that I write about things that are relevant to me, or answer my own questions. Today me and baby are having a crisis period, and the blog immediately…

It just happened that I’m kind of surrounded myself with moms of the peers of my Newcomer, so it’s a little funny when everyone suddenly starts making drama around the same topic, and at the same time it’s a confirmation that the phenomenon actually takes place. Two is а diagnosis first transition age. Though, this…

A baby needs boundaries. They need someone who can stand them and not break. Alla Slotvinska “Playing Together or How to Cope with Child’s I-do-not-wants” I’ve read a lot of parenting books. Now it’s rather a sport than a research. However, I am still looking for a brilliant, and with no doubt have some useful…