Richard Schwartz’s book You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For offers a brilliantly simple yet revolutionary approach to relationships and personal healing. Our deepest wounds and relationship struggles stem from unprocessed parts within us, which we often mistakenly identify as our core self. The idea that there is a true Self and accumulated parts…

There is no perfect soul mate, no flawless lover. We are all stumbling around, treading on each other’s toes as we are learning to love. Dr. Sue Johnson – Hold Me Tight Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), asserts that love is not a mystery but a science. It is based…

Attachment styles are psychological models that describe how people form emotional bonds and interact with others: first in parent-child relationships and then, as a result, in intimate relationships. Views on relationships during the Bowlby era During the 20th century, relationships, especially parent-child relationships, were often viewed through a functional lens. Parents were seen primarily as…

Dedicated to the man who gave me an invaluable experience of accepted emotions and being heard I love to feel that whatever happens to me is just right and happens when it’s right, that I am in a context, and to understand what this context is. When every book that happens to be at hand,…

For a long time I wanted to make a list of books where women sincerely and beautifully write about women’s issues, pains, feministic things, healthy feminine and healthy masculine. I haven’t read all the books on this list, so this is also my to-read list. I also hope that the Ukrainian market will see all…

When I started this blog, I had no idea that this was my introduction to human, and that my path lays in social anthropology. I was simply answering my own questions that arose on the road of motherhood, delving more and more into the nature of things. Now I have found a name for it,…

I had a hard time reading Eric Berne’s book “Games People Play” because it was hard to remember and apply it to my own life without some foundation. Such a basis appeared to be a book that is not yet available on the Ukrainian market – “Staying OK” by Thomas and Amy Harris. Its first…

Thanks to the book The Courage to be Disliked, I discovered Adler – the father of individual psychology. And read his The Science of Living. It resonated with me, especially considering that I have a background in psychoanalysis and integrative psychotherapy. This is heaven and earth. What if we are all not only under the…

Small routines and clear plans: a few questions and small contributions in each of the areas can significantly improve the quality of life. Let’s try. Vishen Lakhiani – “Code of the Extraordinary Mind”. Vishen Lakhiani – “Code of the Extraordinary Mind” “Code of the Extraordinary Mind” by Vishen Lakhiani is not a book that I would sincerely recommend,…

Lots of personal struggles, a few therapists, and John Gottman’s science-based book, Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work, is what this text is based on. The title of the article expanded from the concept of marriage to the concept of “relationship”, since most of these principles are applicable not only to marriage, but also to…