What is “bad behavior” and what does it mean to be a “good mother”? What types of defense mechanisms are there, and are we perhaps sometimes running away from life? What can we do with overstimulation, how can we self-regulate and create a peaceful space at home with children? Four questions for choosing a partner…
Richard Schwartz’s book You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For offers a brilliantly simple yet revolutionary approach to relationships and personal healing. Our deepest wounds and relationship struggles stem from unprocessed parts within us, which we often mistakenly identify as our core self. The idea that there is a true Self and accumulated parts…
Attachment styles are psychological models that describe how people form emotional bonds and interact with others: first in parent-child relationships and then, as a result, in intimate relationships. Views on relationships during the Bowlby era During the 20th century, relationships, especially parent-child relationships, were often viewed through a functional lens. Parents were seen primarily as…
I have long wanted to talk about evidence-based techniques for mental health. I am extremely glad that such methods exist and already have a scientific basis – this is the beginning of something big. We begin to understand on all levels that we are whole beings, not divided into components — body, mind, or soul….
The social, psychological, and physiological changes that accompany childbirth are often not openly discussed or oversimplified. There is a certain standard in society that the birth of a child should be a “happy event”, but this narrative does not take into account all the difficulties that accompany this process, especially when the pregnancy was not…
Coping mechanisms are our actions/reactions in response to difficulties or stress. They can be healthy or unhealthy. These mechanisms are deeply rooted in our behavior and are often based on our past experiences, meaning that we often use them automatically, subconsciously. However, it is important to distinguish between beneficial and harmful mechanisms and to understand…
How do we manage our own time and what conclusions can we draw from this? In the book “Wishcraft. How to Get What You Really Want”, the author, Barbara Sher, says that after analyzing our day, we most likely find ourselves belonging to one of the types: “procrastinator” or “good person”. Which one are you…
What childhood fears are out there, do they pass and how to handle them. My childhood fears In my childhood, I had two traumas related to fears and at the same time mistrust. The first one was a purely instinctive fear of swallowing pills, the throat was getting convulsively constricted and that’s it. Mom didn’t…
How to be in shape after a period of no physical activity or childbirth. Diaphragmatic breathing Since late childhood, I had the feeling that I was breathing somehow wrong. But how one earth one can breathe wrong, I thought. And then I grew up and learned that from birth babies breathe properly – with diaphragmatic…
How to choose a psychotherapist, my story Restless life.I first decided to see a therapist in 2009, in my early 20s. Who knows at what level this field was in Ukraine at that time (the Ukrainian Union of Psychotherapists was founded in 1994), but I didn’t know anything about it, and I simply went to…
