There is no perfect soul mate, no flawless lover. We are all stumbling around, treading on each other’s toes as we are learning to love. Dr. Sue Johnson – Hold Me Tight Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), asserts that love is not a mystery but a science. It is based…
Attachment styles are psychological models that describe how people form emotional bonds and interact with others: first in parent-child relationships and then, as a result, in intimate relationships. Views on relationships during the Bowlby era During the 20th century, relationships, especially parent-child relationships, were often viewed through a functional lens. Parents were seen primarily as…
The social, psychological, and physiological changes that accompany childbirth are often not openly discussed or oversimplified. There is a certain standard in society that the birth of a child should be a “happy event”, but this narrative does not take into account all the difficulties that accompany this process, especially when the pregnancy was not…
Having lived with people of different gender and cultures, I have come to the conclusion that equality in everyday life is rather a matter of personal maturity and responsibility than gender and cultural background, although the latter, of course, also plays a role. What if all this can be taken into account, when creating your…
Lots of personal struggles, a few therapists, and John Gottman’s science-based book, Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work, is what this text is based on. The title of the article expanded from the concept of marriage to the concept of “relationship”, since most of these principles are applicable not only to marriage, but also to…
When I don’t have inspiration to write it means I try to write about something that doesn’t hurt. And why to write what you don’t care about – that’s the question. So I’ll make it about what I have been thinking during the last month, as a part of the campaign ‘not to commit any…
At first, I described my blog as the one about ‘parenting’. In Ukrainian the meaning of this word is equal to ‘fatherhood’, and we use the same word for both meanings. Eventually, I realized that I was writing more for and perhaps closer to mothers, and the word ‘fatherhood’ seemed too patriarchal to me, so…
I once tried to make such a list, but that time it was made on the basis of recommendations found in the Web, and now it’s very, very funny to me ?. But let’s leave it for the history and overall picture. Today is the time for a second try, and this time most of…
We hear about contraception all the time, invasive unnatural contraception that may have really unpleasant outcomes, while knowing literally nothing about our bodies. I don’t know a tool for any area in life better that observation. By observing our feelings, moods, body reactions, tracking it all, we may come to understand ourselves way better, especially…
The birth plan is our support during childbirth and the basis for communication with the medical staff. Below you can download the template and edit it according to your needs. Lots of useful stuff on this blog, please use the search! Take care of yourself, the world rests on mothers. Do I need to make…
