When we ask, “How can I get my child to be less shy/concentrate more/be more interested in art/be more active?” and so on, we are not accepting them for who they are. Instead, we can work to show our child we love them just as they are, where they are right now. Really, that is…
Parenting At first, I described my blog as the one about ‘parenting’. In Ukrainian the meaning of this word is equal to ‘fatherhood’, and we use the same word for both meanings. Eventually, I realized that I was writing more for and perhaps closer to mothers, and the word ‘fatherhood’ seemed too patriarchal to me,…
Sometimes I write articles just for myself because I need some convincing reminders of well-known things. This is one of those. Let it be This week my mantra is let it be, and I used to think of this phrase as ‘well, whatever, let it be’ rather than ‘allow it to be’.There are things we…
The trust of our children is of great value to us: our attention, respect, restraint, patience, and endless work on ourselves and our relationships – here is the whole book in one sentence, and at the same time, the painful truth. None of ephemeral absolute love is enough to remain a shelter for a child…
I really liked the idea of Tina Bryson’s and Daniel Siegel’s book “No-Drama Discipline” about the soundtrack, like before starting solving the situation, make sure to turn off a thriller inside and turn on some pleasant romantic music or something. Or imagine yourself looking at the playground: moskali (a very special type of Russians) scream,…
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. The Bible, Ephesians 4:26 The peculiarity of this blog is that I write about things that are relevant to me, or answer my own questions. Today me and baby are having a crisis period, and the blog immediately…
It just happened that I’m kind of surrounded myself with moms of the peers of my Newcomer, so it’s a little funny when everyone suddenly starts making drama around the same topic, and at the same time it’s a confirmation that the phenomenon actually takes place. Two is а diagnosis first transition age. Though, this…
I am one of those moms who give maximum freedom, but who may also yell if required, for example, when a baby rushes to drink shampoo. In other cases, I constantly preach a policy of nonviolence and endlessly praise its effectiveness. One of the aspects where my baby and I have substantially won is bathing…
I once tried to make a list of parenting books, but that time it was made on the basis of recommendations found in the Web, and now it’s very, very funny to me. But let’s leave it for the history and overall picture. Today is the time for a second try, and this time most…
Yesterday, seven years ago, at seven o’clock in the morning, my 48-hours contractions had elegantly moved to the pushing stage striking the whole world with an incredible blue bubble, and my life started over. Why so serious? Why is he so angry? – I’m often being asked on the street. He is not angry, –…
