Pain is often perceived as an enemy — something to avoid, suppress, or numb. From childhood, we are taught to seek comfort and safety and avoid suffering. However, when viewed through the lens of psychology, philosophy, and personal development, pain is not just an obstacle but a necessary component of growth. Just as the body…
Relationships are primarily about communication. Communication is built on active listening, clarity, empathy, openness, non-verbal cues, context awareness, and mutual respect. Relationships influence not only our personal lives but also parenting, work, society, and overall well-being. These books on relationships and communication can help you better understand yourself, learn to communicate more effectively, and most…
Richard Schwartz’s book You Are the One You’ve Been Waiting For offers a brilliantly simple yet revolutionary approach to relationships and personal healing. Our deepest wounds and relationship struggles stem from unprocessed parts within us, which we often mistakenly identify as our core self. The idea that there is a true Self and accumulated parts…
There is no perfect soul mate, no flawless lover. We are all stumbling around, treading on each other’s toes as we are learning to love. Dr. Sue Johnson – Hold Me Tight Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), asserts that love is not a mystery but a science. It is based…
The book Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff delves into her own anthropological explorations among various civilizations, including the Inuit, Māori, Hunza, Maasai, and Gabonese tribes. In the “pressure cooker” of Western nuclear families, much attention is given to a child’s independence, often demanded in an imperative manner. In contrast, in the aforementioned tribes, children…
Attachment styles are psychological models that describe how people form emotional bonds and interact with others: first in parent-child relationships and then, as a result, in intimate relationships. Views on relationships during the Bowlby era During the 20th century, relationships, especially parent-child relationships, were often viewed through a functional lens. Parents were seen primarily as…
Why do we choose people for relationships who seem right in the moment but cause so much pain later? Attraction often plays a large role in our initial choices, but can sometimes cloud our judgment, leading to decisions that are not in line with our long-term happiness. It seems that the attraction was designed by…
The first anthropological parenting book I read was The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff, and it’s in my top 10 parenting books. The second was Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff, which clearly joins the top. Among other things, she talks about how to teach a child to clean up after themselves and take care…
I have long wanted to talk about evidence-based techniques for mental health. I am extremely glad that such methods exist and already have a scientific basis – this is the beginning of something big. We begin to understand on all levels that we are whole beings, not divided into components — body, mind, or soul….
The social, psychological, and physiological changes that accompany childbirth are often not openly discussed or oversimplified. There is a certain standard in society that the birth of a child should be a “happy event”, but this narrative does not take into account all the difficulties that accompany this process, especially when the pregnancy was not…
