What is “bad behavior” and what does it mean to be a “good mother”? What types of defense mechanisms are there, and are we perhaps sometimes running away from life? What can we do with overstimulation, how can we self-regulate and create a peaceful space at home with children? Four questions for choosing a partner…
Pain is often perceived as an enemy — something to avoid, suppress, or numb. From childhood, we are taught to seek comfort and safety and avoid suffering. However, when viewed through the lens of psychology, philosophy, and personal development, pain is not just an obstacle but a necessary component of growth. Just as the body…
The first anthropological parenting book I read was The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff, and it’s in my top 10 parenting books. The second was Hunt, Gather, Parent by Michaeleen Doucleff, which clearly joins the top. Among other things, she talks about how to teach a child to clean up after themselves and take care…
I had a hard time reading Eric Berne’s book “Games People Play” because it was hard to remember and apply it to my own life without some foundation. Such a basis appeared to be a book that is not yet available on the Ukrainian market – “Staying OK” by Thomas and Amy Harris. Its first…
Thanks to the book The Courage to be Disliked, I discovered Adler – the father of individual psychology. And read his The Science of Living. It resonated with me, especially considering that I have a background in psychoanalysis and integrative psychotherapy. This is heaven and earth. What if we are all not only under the…
Sometimes, being angry, I think it’s the bottom already – and it knocks from the bottom again, then I want to run from you, from home, at least somewhere. Every day since I became a mother I celebrate the minute of the day when you were born. Viktoriya Chernyakhivska When I yell at my child,…
What to consider when sending a child to nursery, and how to facilitate adaptation. Own experience and opinion of the family psychologist. The other day, during the act of handover to the nursery, my child sat, dangling his legs, gnawing an apple and was watching with interest as other children roared “iwantmom”. This is our…
For me 2020 was a year of great return to the world of Ukrainian-language books. For various reasons, I have ignored our market since the beginning of the war. As it turned out, Ukraine made a real publishing breakthrough. In fact, since 2015 there has been a significant jump in the number of new publishers,…
When we ask, “How can I get my child to be less shy/concentrate more/be more interested in art/be more active?” and so on, we are not accepting them for who they are. Instead, we can work to show our child we love them just as they are, where they are right now. Really, that is…
The trust of our children is of great value to us: our attention, respect, restraint, patience, and endless work on ourselves and our relationships – here is the whole book in one sentence, and at the same time, the painful truth. None of ephemeral absolute love is enough to remain a shelter for a child…
