What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart.Marshall Rosenberg “Nonviolent Communication” Emotional blackmail Once I told one guy that I wanted to break up with him, and he threatened to commit suicide. Surprisingly, my reaction was complete inner peace, and for…
When we ask, “How can I get my child to be less shy/concentrate more/be more interested in art/be more active?” and so on, we are not accepting them for who they are. Instead, we can work to show our child we love them just as they are, where they are right now. Really, that is…
At first, I described my blog as the one about ‘parenting’. In Ukrainian the meaning of this word is equal to ‘fatherhood’, and we use the same word for both meanings. Eventually, I realized that I was writing more for and perhaps closer to mothers, and the word ‘fatherhood’ seemed too patriarchal to me, so…
Sometimes I write articles justfor myself because I need some convincing reminders of well-known things. This is one of those. This week my mantra is let it be, and I used to think of this phrase as ‘well, whatever, let it be’ rather than ‘allow it to be’.There are things we cannot change, it’s a…
The trust of our children is of great value to us: our attention, respect, restraint, patience, and endless work on ourselves and our relationships – here is the whole book in one sentence, and at the same time, the painful truth. None of ephemeral absolute love is enough to remain a shelter for a child…
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. The Bible, Ephesians 4:26 The peculiarity of this blog is that I write about things that are relevant to me, or answer my own questions. Today me and baby are having a crisis period, and the blog immediately…
It just happened that I’m kind of surrounded myself with moms of the peers of my Newcomer, so it’s a little funny when everyone suddenly starts making drama around the same topic, and at the same time it’s a confirmation that the phenomenon actually takes place. Two is а diagnosis first transition age. Though, this…
I once tried to make such a list, but that time it was made on the basis of recommendations found in the Web, and now it’s very, very funny to me ?. But let’s leave it for the history and overall picture. Today is the time for a second try, and this time most of…
Yesterday, seven years ago, at seven o’clock in the morning, my 48-hours contractions had elegantly moved to the pushing stage striking the whole world with an incredible blue bubble, and my life started over. Why so serious? Why is he so angry? – I’m often being asked on the street. He is not angry, –…
Motherhood came to me unexpectedly, but on time. I was exactly bored with working with inhumane schedules, fiction books and carelessness towards myself. In fact, my life at that time consisted mainly of chronic depression and running away or having a bad relationship. With the birth of a baby, I finally got grounded, I became…
